Ever since I can remember I’ve always wanted my own line of fitness wear. When I was pregnant with my son, more than 20 years ago, I didn’t like the maternity clothes in the store. So, I decided to have a few key pieces made for myself. Donald was my seamstress. He was awesomely talented, fine and so not into women but he sew his butt off. Sadly, Donald passed away years ago and hopefully I can find a seamstress just as good when I’m ready to get some pieces made. Choosing the patterns and fabrics were equally fun. I could spend hours in a fabric store, oohing and ahhing at the different fabrics, while pouring over the various Vogue pattern books. I never really mastered sewing and only time will tell if I decide to learn how to sew but in the meantime, I’ve found this most fantastic fabric called “Jungle Boogie Nights.” I’m looking forward to ordering this fabric and creating a really beautiful garment. OK, enough ranting about loving this really cool fabric. The point is the need to create will always come through so don’t fight it, just create something. Until next time, be well, be love, and be loved!
You don’t have to do this alone. You can ask for help. Some people will say, “No,” while others will gladly say, “Yes, what do you need?” The point is keep asking until you get a “yes!”
“Morning workouts seem to be more effective—providing they work for you and you can stick with them. There is evidence that suggests your metabolism is elevated to a greater extent with morning workouts, allowing you to burn more total calories in a day. In addition, it has been shown that morning exercisers have a higher adherence rate.” – Bob Greene, bestselling author, exercise physiologist and certified personal trainer
Everyday after I get off work, I chide myself for not getting up in the morning to work out versus going after work. I love working out in the morning and getting it out of the way. It’s not crowded, all the machines are available and I love the way I feel after I’m done working out. What I don’t love is getting up so early to do it. However, I met a woman in the gym’s locker room a few days ago and I ran into her again this morning. We’ve chatted before and she’s shared with me that she cares for her handicapped husband. So, here she was, early in the morning, getting it in for herself. I know all too well the stress of being a caregiver and also the importance of taking care of yourself. I commended her for not only caring for her husband but also getting up while it’s still dark to put in some time for herself. She was truly “fit and fab for life” personified. I’ll have to get her name the next time I see her. Hopefully that will be next week which means I’ll have to get up early every morning and get it done. She made me realize if you really want something bad enough you will make the sacrifices. While I know this to be true, we sometimes get comfortable and make excuses that really have no merit. My son is in college now so I don’t have chicken nor “chile” holding me back from getting up and getting it done. This is a never-ending challenge for me where I end going to the gym after work but it’s everyday “SHEroes” like my friend that remind me to get up, get out and get busy….early. Until next time, be well, be love and be loved!
There’s so many things to celebrating about publishing my first book but the one thing I can know for sure is that no one can ever take the title, “published author” away from me. Ironically, I’m ready for the next chapter of this awesome journey called “my life.” The life I’m learning to fall in love with and that’s truly being “fit and fab for life!”
Every year, my pastor calls for a consecration in February. For the last two years, I’ve chosen to unplug from social media. This is day 20 and so far, so good. I actually needed to unplug for a minute and recharge myself. I’m learning a lot about myself in 2013 as I continue my journey. I’m meeting and getting to know other people while I’m learning more about me. I’m taking baby steps outside of my comfort zone, putting myself out here and staying open to new ideas, people and opportunities is where I want to be. I have a small acting role as Coretta Scott King, when I’ve normally portrayed a reporter – something that comes naturally to me. My book, “Fit and Fab for Life” is becoming more of a reality as I will finally hold an actual copy in my hands in a few weeks. I’m moving further away from my comfort zone and becoming more fearless. I believe and know that the best is yet to come!
“I really think the range of emotions and perceptions I have had access to as a black person and as a female person are greater than those of people who are neither…. So it seems to me that my world did not shrink because I was a black female writer. It just got bigger.” – Toni Morrison
On February 18, 2013, the legendary author and first African American woman to win the Nobel Prize in literature turned 82. As a writer, I celebrate her and the way she has showered the world with her words and complex characters through a number of different books. When you realize the power of words and the ability to weave them in to something that can move the world, evoke emotion, inspire, uplift, and entertain, it makes you appreciate the gift even more to be able to do just that. While “Fit and Fab for Life” is my first book, it definitely won’t be my last and I hope that if I’m fortunate to live to 82, I can look back at my own legacy of the written word. Again, here’s to you Ms. Morrison and your legacy of the written word that will inspire us for years to come.
“Confidence is the only key. I know a lot of people who aren’t traditionally ‘beautiful’ — not symmetrical or perfect-bodied or perfect-skinned. But none of that matters because all that shines through is their confidence, humor and comfort with themselves. I can’t think of any better representation of beauty than someone who is unafraid to be herself” – Emma Stone
We live in a world today where we are constantly bombarded with images of people. Sometimes we can be tempted to compare ourselves to the Queen Bees of the world (Well, there’s only one Beyonce’), Kimmy Ks, and even the latest Instagram super models. As long as people have known me, I’ve been somewhat of a style chameleon over the years. I can pull off a variety of looks and it’s fun. Yesterday, I decided to strip down to my natural, while playing in some makeup. I did this to bring the focus back to me and to celebrate my unique features and to remind myself, no matter who I behold, whether they are on television, the Internet or magazine, I am beautiful! At the end of the day, while you can appreciate someone else’s beauty, you have to appreciate your own and tell yourself on a daily basis, “You are beautiful!” I love Christina Aguilera’s song, “Beautiful!” She could sing a nursery rhyme and it would rock but these words are inspiring as is the video. Enjoy and remember, you are beautiful!
I remembered having a conversation with someone about writing down their goals to really make them happen. They questioned if that was an effective tactic and I thought, “of course” it is. I rattled off something like “Goals should be S.M.A.R.T.” and how writing them down makes you more accountable and more likely for you to reach them. S.M.A.R.T. is an acronym, translated this way: Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant and Time-bound. Goals should be all of these things. So, I’m making myself accountable by way of my blog. Here’s some of my goals that I don’t mind sharing. I will cross them off and share with you as I do. This list does not include all of my goals. What are some of your goals?
1) Strength-train 4 days a week – Cardio 6 days a week (45 min. each): Looking good and feeling good are important. A friend of mine shared his routine with me and it has helped tremendously in focusing on certain body parts on certain days to maximize my workout. I walk the walk and talk the talk.
2) Build my website: I took an online website building class during my Master’s Program and waited to the last minutes to do one for my final project. My grade was an A. Proof to myself that I’m well capable of doing this.
3) Respond to two radio interview requests and apologize profusely for the delay.
4) Blog every day. My book refers back to my blog for inspiration. Makes sense to have fresh inspiration, right?
5) Pray for my family, friends and follow my daily Bible reading. It would be a shame not to be spiritually grounded and have an intimate relationship with God while I’m alive. I have so much I’m asking God for and I need His continual guidance. My faith has kept me standing for so long.
6) Contact a potential mentor. Everybody needs a mentor and I’m no different.
7) Convert logo file into a jpeg and/or vector file.
8) Revise sponsor letter for sponsors.
9) Create Electronic Press Kit.
10) Get my passport.
“Mother love is the fuel that enables a normal human being to do the impossible.” ~Marion C. Garretty, quoted in A Little Spoonful of Chicken Soup for the Mother’s Soul
While I intended to post something yesterday, that didn’t happen. Time got away from me, between work, working out and finally dinner. I was so pooped when I got home from dinner that didn’t make it through the first fifteen minutes of “Scandal” much less my last 60 squats from my daily squat challenge. Thankfully, I can catch the episode this weekend online. Yesterday, I recalled one Valentine’s Day, about two years ago, where I was having a conversation with my mom about some guy. I remembered how candid I could be with her and her advice to me. Needless to say, I have grown so much since that conversation and her passing, which was almost a year ago. As I continue on my personal self-love journey, I am reminded that love will always surround me and my mother will always be with me. Until next time, be well, be love, and be loved!